may 2021

Friends reunion who? Give me more Val Cherish.
Friends reunion who? Give me more Val Cherish.

Well, I got it!  Since the last time we checked in, she's been busy.  I got two offers for high school ESL jobs in the Twin Cities!  One was for a charter school and the other is for a public intermediate school district that supports students with IEPs and "non-traditional" students (adult learners, etc.)  The charter school offer came first, so I accepted that.  Then, the public school offer came and I was like "Uh oh."  After experiencing the shitshow that is the NYC Department of Education, I have firsthand knowledge of invaluable unions are — even when they are run by nincompoops.  So, I had to decline the offer I accepted and I went with the public school.  Juggling multiple offers was not as fun as I expected it to be!

In the end, I feel like I made the right decision and the beauty of teaching is, if it ends up not being the right decision, I can re-evaluate where I'm at after next school year and switch it up.  For now, I am really excited about building my skills to be a better teacher for all students and their different learning styles and needs. I know it will be difficult, but I'm up for the challenge.

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Later in May, the entire Haus of Abundance (including Tito) ventured onto a real live aeroplane to go check out our new potential habitat: the Twin Cities.  It was Tito and Diego's first time (did I mention we're flying by the seat of our pants here?) and phew, they liked it!  It's so damn green (when it's not powdery white), with tons of parks, bodies of water, and bike paths.  We checked out a few neighborhoods, went to the amazing bowling alley/theater/restaurant from that viral drone video, drove by Paisley Park, said hello to the Mississippi River and checked for Grimes on a riverboat. Our waitress at the last restaurant had recently moved from Manhattan because the pandemic had her all like "Hell no."  We took it as a good sign.

Tito explores Minnehaha Falls
Tito explores Minnehaha Falls

The trip was essentially our gut check and we came back to our cockroach infested Brooklyn apartment knowing that we have had it — officially.  Plus, we met our realtor who is queer and amazing and specializes in first-time buyers like us.  All in all, our guts said "We can do this."  Of course, there are random moments when your stomach drops and you're like "Everything I know is about to change!" but that comes with the territory of taking risks. And a risk we are ready to take!

It was a risk to uproot my life and move to New York back in 2009 — a risk well worth it.  Of course it was never always easy, or happy, or life-affirming.  It broke me the hell down, but I built myself back up and I'm not sure what that would have looked like anywhere else.  I'm proud of myself for taking that risk and becoming who I am today.

And who I am today is just another cliched Zillow millennial who bought roller skates and is chasing that dream starter home.  It could be worse. I could be a geriatric millennial!

Went to the Met to see Garibaldo!
Went to the Met to see Garibaldo!

One final life important life update: we watched Eurovision for the first time ever because we needed a break from binging Girls5Eva.  Well, consider me a stan.  It isn't as weird as I thought it would be — no, it's fucking campy!!  It wasn't until I watched it that I realized how starved I've been for good old fashioned camp.  Seriously, the new Drag Race queens could learn a thing or two from these folks. I have fallen off a Eurovision cliff, and this month's playlist reflects that.  You are welcome!


april 2021

Did you know Tito listens to My Chemical Romance?
Did you know Tito listens to My Chemical Romance?
I'm not like other Dads, I'm a cool Dad
I'm not like other Dads, I'm a cool Dad

We started the month with a trip to Fort Tryon park for Easter Sunday. I made a fool of myself as you can see in the above photos.  I can also share the incredible news that Blue Bloods filmed in my neighborhood.  My mom was really excited. I tried to tell her that ACAB but she didn't care, she loves Tom Selleck. Did you know Michael Shannon lives in my neighborhood? He's not on Blue Bloods, but we've seen him on a porch and on the subway a few times.  Also, Ted Schmidt from Queer as Folk is my neighbor. We say "hello" to each other walking our dogs every morning. I've never blurted out "tell me everything about playing a meth addict on an instrumental show in my queer coming of age," but we still have a few months in Brooklyn left.

Objects d'television
Objects d'television
Beautiful morning for stunts
Beautiful morning for stunts

The Aries man Diego turned 37. Because he's not a big fan of parties/being the center of attention, I consolidated an extravagant celebration into this ridiculous(ly amazing) candle for his homemade coconut cream birthday cake. 

We also passed the 8 year mark this month. One of our first dates was taking the free Staten Island Ferry (poor, nasty little queers we were) with some cans of beer and there was a full moon. It was kind of a trip to realize we met when he was 29, I was 27. We're old as hell, but it feels really good to get old as hell together.

April 23 2013 — Our 2nd date?
April 23 2013 — Our 2nd date?

Diego also became Herbie Fully Vaxxed, so we decided to do some things we haven't done in over a year and a month: eat at a restaurant (Traif) and see a movie in an actual movie theatre (Judas and the Black Messiah at Nitehawk).  I felt like maybe it would be weird, but it very quickly was fine and highly enjoyable if I do say! People weren't jerks! We saved the economy! Although I survived the service industry myself in a past life, I have an entirely different appreciation for service industry folks these days. I have a new understanding of "if you can't afford to leave a generous tip, you can't afford to be doing it."  Which may be why we've been to a restaurant once in the last year. 

Tito's like "another resume and cover letter?" UGH
Tito's like "another resume and cover letter?" UGH


I am applying to teaching jobs (11 so far) like its going out of style and keeping everything crossed that I get at least one offer. It might make the whole "moving across the country" thing a little easier. The dream would be to find my very own Flatpoint High School where I can settle down to teach, but I'm cool with doing a year at any school to figure out where I want to stay in the long run.



Tito helps Dad write his masterpiece
Tito helps Dad write his masterpiece

The last, best, most amazing news is that Diego is going to be published! He got word back that one of his stories will be published in Carve magazine. You may not know this, but Diego writes on almost every day off from work he has and has done so for the last 4.5 years. His self discipline is really something to behold — your fave could never — and I for one am juiced to see it validated this way. Once it is set free to the world, I'll holler.

Cherry Blossoms in Brooklyn
Cherry Blossoms in Brooklyn

April 2021 Playlist


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